jrry
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Post by jrry on Jul 24, 2013 16:58:09 GMT
notice there's like 150 views but 14 responses...classic shy people ha |
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Post by oliviaissquirrelgirl on Jul 31, 2013 7:11:27 GMT
Hey I just found this  I'm pretty shy, I'm getting better and more outgoing in person but forums are really intimidating and stressful  |
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rainbowmutt
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Post by rainbowmutt on Jul 31, 2013 9:46:34 GMT
Hey I just found this I'm pretty shy, I'm getting better and more outgoing in person but forums are really intimidating and stressful I'm sure we've all felt the same way! The internet is a brutal place >.> But at least we're all cool in this lil' corner :3 Comment on ALL the things! |
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Post by oliviaissquirrelgirl on Aug 1, 2013 0:36:13 GMT
Hey I just found this I'm pretty shy, I'm getting better and more outgoing in person but forums are really intimidating and stressful I'm sure we've all felt the same way! The internet is a brutal place >.> But at least we're all cool in this lil' corner :3 Comment on ALL the things! it really is even within our little hartosexual bubble of safety it's still a bit brutal. haha anyway what's up? how're you? who're you? haha |
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Post by kolo on Aug 1, 2013 8:40:56 GMT
Hey I just found this I'm pretty shy, I'm getting better and more outgoing in person but forums are really intimidating and stressful I'm sure we've all felt the same way! The internet is a brutal place >.> But at least we're all cool in this lil' corner :3 Comment on ALL the things! I think that's partly the reason why I'm always a bit hesitant to get involved in online communities/fandoms. The relative anonymity the internet can give us can make some people behave like arseholes and I'm a rather sensitive soul...if someone is mean to me I dwell on it for way too long! |
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rainbowmutt
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Post by rainbowmutt on Aug 1, 2013 10:50:56 GMT
I'm sure we've all felt the same way! The internet is a brutal place >.> But at least we're all cool in this lil' corner :3 Comment on ALL the things! it really is even within our little hartosexual bubble of safety it's still a bit brutal. haha anyway what's up? how're you? who're you? haha Yeah, if you venture outside our bubble you'd better have some thick skin! Not much. School is very busy at the moment. But I was super happy all day and I may have annoyed my friends with random jokes, singing and dancing >.> Who am I?  Uh, just a random 16 yo chick from Australia who goes by the name of Indi! How about you? How was your day? |
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koo
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Post by koo on Aug 4, 2013 20:07:52 GMT
I've just realized that I'm so shy that I viewed this post like 5 times before I actually built up the courage to reply
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Post by rehabzombies on Aug 5, 2013 3:46:06 GMT
I've just realized that I'm so shy that I viewed this post like 5 times before I actually built up the courage to reply Same, I have been sitting and reading the conversation but haven't joined in. ^^' |
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Post by koo on Aug 6, 2013 17:02:41 GMT
I've just realized that I'm so shy that I viewed this post like 5 times before I actually built up the courage to reply Same, I have been sitting and reading the conversation but haven't joined in. ^^' haha I've just been stalking this whole website without posting much because I feel like I would make a fool of myself! |
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Post by rehabzombies on Aug 6, 2013 18:26:08 GMT
Same, I have been sitting and reading the conversation but haven't joined in. ^^' haha I've just been stalking this whole website without posting much because I feel like I would make a fool of myself! Yeah, I know that feeling. (: Ah well, sometimes you just have to type a reply and press "post". |
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kolo
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Post by kolo on Aug 7, 2013 6:33:14 GMT
Same, I have been sitting and reading the conversation but haven't joined in. ^^' haha I've just been stalking this whole website without posting much because I feel like I would make a fool of myself! I think making the initial post is usually the hardest! It takes me ages to work up the courage to actually do it. I'm terrible with sending emails too, especially if they're to people I have a professional relationship with, like my supervisors at uni etc. I spend ages rereading them before I can press send to make sure I'm not saying anything "stupid". I heard an interesting saying a while ago that has helped me to overcome some of my shyness in real life, "shyness is a cowards vanity". It sounds harsh, but I found that it really made sense of why I was so shy. I was constantly worried that people were judging me for every little thing I did/said, and that I had to maintain some sort of image of perfection. In actuality most people aren't paying THAT much attention to you, most people are concerned with how they're behaving in a given situation. Also, being imperfect is what makes us human and I'm trying to learn to embrace that more so I stop putting such unrealistic expectations on myself. However I do find it a bit harder to apply to online contexts as what we say tends to stick around for people to reread, rather than a fleeting moment. I think I just have to work on not caring if strangers on the internet are judging me  |
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Post by rehabzombies on Aug 7, 2013 23:47:56 GMT
haha I've just been stalking this whole website without posting much because I feel like I would make a fool of myself! I think making the initial post is usually the hardest! It takes me ages to work up the courage to actually do it. I'm terrible with sending emails too, especially if they're to people I have a professional relationship with, like my supervisors at uni etc. I spend ages rereading them before I can press send to make sure I'm not saying anything "stupid". I heard an interesting saying a while ago that has helped me to overcome some of my shyness in real life, "shyness is a cowards vanity". It sounds harsh, but I found that it really made sense of why I was so shy. I was constantly worried that people were judging me for every little thing I did/said, and that I had to maintain some sort of image of perfection. In actuality most people aren't paying THAT much attention to you, most people are concerned with how they're behaving in a given situation. Also, being imperfect is what makes us human and I'm trying to learn to embrace that more so I stop putting such unrealistic expectations on myself. However I do find it a bit harder to apply to online contexts as what we say tends to stick around for people to reread, rather than a fleeting moment. I think I just have to work on not caring if strangers on the internet are judging me :P Yeah, I agree. Initial posts, even with friends (for me at least) are always extremely difficult, in most situations (especially roleplays with me, I hate starting roleplays and being the second person replying, because I always feel I have to be overly impressive and try keep that up). I kind of looked at my post count and said to myself, "Maybe I shouldn't count myself as shy on this website anymore..." I think a huge part of it here is the community and how nice you guys are, so I feel less pressure and I don't feel as if I am being judged harshly/badly. |
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Post by punsnotguns on Aug 18, 2013 19:19:56 GMT
Did anyone see Grace's advice video she did with Tim recently? Because I think she had some pretty solid advice on over-coming social anxiety. I know being shy and having social anxiety aren't the same thing, but I think the advice still stands as good either way. I'm doing a bit of what she said, trying to find more people and get more comfortable with them, but also I'm trying to say yes to more things even if I don't want to because it gets me out and doing things and meeting people |
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Post by kolo on Aug 19, 2013 8:32:40 GMT
Did anyone see Grace's advice video she did with Tim recently? Because I think she had some pretty solid advice on over-coming social anxiety. I know being shy and having social anxiety aren't the same thing, but I think the advice still stands as good either way. I'm doing a bit of what she said, trying to find more people and get more comfortable with them, but also I'm trying to say yes to more things even if I don't want to because it gets me out and doing things and meeting people Yes, it was one of those rare occasions when she actually gives serious advice I noticed after Vidcon some other YouTubers were saying that Grace was stuck up and rude because she wouldn't talk to fans between signings and would just walk past them with her head down. I think this might have something to do with the social anxiety she has mentioned in past videos. People don't realise that coming across as confident in videos and at panels/interviews is different from when lots of random strangers approach you, which I can imagine would be really overwhelming. |
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Post by punsnotguns on Aug 20, 2013 19:06:54 GMT
Did anyone see Grace's advice video she did with Tim recently? Because I think she had some pretty solid advice on over-coming social anxiety. I know being shy and having social anxiety aren't the same thing, but I think the advice still stands as good either way. I'm doing a bit of what she said, trying to find more people and get more comfortable with them, but also I'm trying to say yes to more things even if I don't want to because it gets me out and doing things and meeting people Yes, it was one of those rare occasions when she actually gives serious advice I noticed after Vidcon some other YouTubers were saying that Grace was stuck up and rude because she wouldn't talk to fans between signings and would just walk past them with her head down. I think this might have something to do with the social anxiety she has mentioned in past videos. People don't realise that coming across as confident in videos and at panels/interviews is different from when lots of random strangers approach you, which I can imagine would be really overwhelming. I've noticed that when she does give serious advice it's usually really good, and she seems to genuinely care which is really nice Yeah, I saw people commenting that sort of stuff on her videos and it was kind of upsetting. But I doubt that she was being stuck up, I think you're right about it being overwhelming. Also she had a lot to do because she had her Camp Takota stuff, the MyMusic panel and also representing herself and MyDamnChannel. I think people almost expect YouTuber's to be able to be constantly 'on' and people really need to give them a break sometimes. But also knowing Grace has social anxiety and then seeing her in her vlogs recently talking to people and seeming really happy has really helped me |
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I'm pretty shy, I'm getting better and more outgoing in person but forums are really intimidating and stressful 
Uh, just a random 16 yo chick from Australia who goes by the name of Indi!
