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Post by teamhartosexual on Jul 14, 2013 4:12:25 GMT
So after being inspired by Hannah's Coming Out Story Video, I realized that the Hartosexual community is so capable to helping others in need. So I thought I'd make this thread to share our stories and help others who are in need of help. Everyone is welcome!
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Post by tuxedopug on Jul 14, 2013 4:13:39 GMT
Ahhhhh I think this is such a great Idea  . I am no doubt willing to give out advice if people are having trouble "coming out" or are not really sure where they stand. I'd share my coming out story, but I already posted a video about it on my tumblr that I think alot of people saw haha. |
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Post by arielleslie on Jul 14, 2013 4:19:55 GMT
I'm mostly an ally, although maybe also genderqueer - depending on your perspective.
If anyone is in the Colorado Springs area, Pridefest is in about two weeks.
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Post by rehabzombies on Jul 14, 2013 4:41:24 GMT
I agree, great idea for a topic, after seeing the comments section on the "Coming out: The Closet" video, I am sure this topic will be just as great, and better.
Eh, not exactly out of the closet yet, but I have dragged a few people into it to keep me company.
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Post by teamhartosexual on Jul 14, 2013 4:48:27 GMT
I'm not out either, but I have great friends who support me and make it easier every day.  |
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Post by hideyourfires on Jul 14, 2013 4:52:53 GMT
I'm one of those people who realized their gayness when they were super young (even though I didn't have the words for it until later), so I've been out for about eight years now, so I'm also willing to chat if anyone needs it.
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Post by rehabzombies on Jul 14, 2013 4:57:18 GMT
I realised I was attracted to females when I was about 11, then when I was 12 I had a full blown crush on the most pretty and funny (andstraight v.v) girl ever. I still have a crush on her, and I'm now 15.
But yeah I only recently have been thinking, more about it, I am still on the edge and unsure if I am lesbian or bi/pansexual but I do prefer girls a lot more. Curse sexuality and how complicated you are!
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Post by teamhartosexual on Jul 14, 2013 5:03:52 GMT
I'm one of those people who had a feeling that I was gay at an really young age... like 9. I didn't come out to myself until I was 12. And then I got pushed out of the closet when I was 13, and now, I couldn't be any more happier. I just feel like whenever people talk about their coming out stories, they usually find out about themselves when they're older than I was, which is causing me to start questioning the legitimacy of my realization and whether mine is just a phase.
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Post by hideyourfires on Jul 14, 2013 5:07:31 GMT
I realised I was attracted to females when I was about 11, then when I was 12 I had a full blown crush on the most pretty and funny (andstraight v.v) girl ever. I still have a crush on her, and I'm now 15. But yeah I only recently have been thinking, more about it, I am still on the edge and unsure if I am lesbian or bi/pansexual but I do prefer girls a lot more. Curse sexuality and how complicated you are! Oh, man, the straight girl crushes are the worst/best things ever. Worst for the obvious reasons, but best because honestly, they're very unifying in the LGBTQ community. I feel like it's a rite of passage thing in that we all go there at some point (or, you know, multiple points if you're me). But don't worry too much about labeling yourself. Because you're entirely right, sexuality is super complicated and it isn't black and white, and just when you think you've figured yourself out, you'll meet this one beautiful soul who defies your expectations and beliefs and then all of a sudden you're back to kindegarten and getting told to color the grass green but you really just want to follow your heart and make a beautiful purple hill and you just don't know what to do anymore. That confusion and uncertainty is pretty constant in life, especially with sexuality. While I know many people put an emphasis in having a label, a term to clutch, words are far less important than your feelings. As long as you're honest with yourself (and that includes constant self-evaluation and reflection), what you actually identify as doesn't truly matter. |
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Post by rehabzombies on Jul 14, 2013 5:11:35 GMT
I realised I was attracted to females when I was about 11, then when I was 12 I had a full blown crush on the most pretty and funny (andstraight v.v) girl ever. I still have a crush on her, and I'm now 15. But yeah I only recently have been thinking, more about it, I am still on the edge and unsure if I am lesbian or bi/pansexual but I do prefer girls a lot more. Curse sexuality and how complicated you are! Oh, man, the straight girl crushes are the worst/best things ever. Worst for the obvious reasons, but best because honestly, they're very unifying in the LGBTQ community. I feel like it's a rite of passage thing in that we all go there at some point (or, you know, multiple points if you're me). But don't worry too much about labeling yourself. Because you're entirely right, sexuality is super complicated and it isn't black and white, and just when you think you've figured yourself out, you'll meet this one beautiful soul who defies your expectations and beliefs and then all of a sudden you're back to kindegarten and getting told to color the grass green but you really just want to follow your heart and make a beautiful purple hill and you just don't know what to do anymore. That confusion and uncertainty is pretty constant in life, especially with sexuality. While I know many people put an emphasis in having a label, a term to clutch, words are far less important than your feelings. As long as you're honest with yourself (and that includes constant self-evaluation and reflection), what you actually identify as doesn't truly matter. Very true. ^^ I think I know for a fact I am attracted to girls. I go to an all girls school and I rarely go out much so I haven't known enough boys to have a crush on one to be able to tell, seeing that is kind of what I go on when it comes to sexuality. I don't think I have ever seen/met a dude that has made my heart flutter in that way a girl has. |
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Post by tuxedopug on Jul 14, 2013 5:14:22 GMT
Pretty much my coming out story in a nutshell is, I think I've kind of always known that I was attracted to girls, but it was kind of one of those things that I didn't want to deal with. It was like, one of those parts in my life that I don't think I was ready to face yet. So I pretty much put off any feelings that I had towards girls and shoved them way down and tried to ignore them (never works though right?), and pretty much just went on in my life dating a bunch of guys. But then in the middle of my senior year, everything came back when I fell for a girl in my psychology class and there was pretty much no doubt that I was attracted to girls a hell lot more than I could ever be attracted to guys. So I faced the 4-5 month period in my life where I was trying to deal with it, and trying to come out to my self, but my main problem was that I didn't have a community.
When coming out, I don't think I can stress having a strong community to back you up enough. If you don't have that support, and you don't have those people that you can go to when you feel lost and you need comofort in this type of situation, there is no doubt that your road to coming out is going to be a very bumpy one. So I just want to let everyone know that if they are having trouble with finding a community, or they feel lost or confused, come to to me or some of the other hartosexuals. When you are a hartosexual you are NEVER alone, you will be able to find one of us to go to even on your darkest days <3
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Post by rehabzombies on Jul 14, 2013 5:17:33 GMT
I am glad I have parents who almost 'enforce' (?) the fact I might like girls, but it is other family and fear of the people here that keeps me in the closet.
Also I'm not ready just yet. :>
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Post by tuxedopug on Jul 14, 2013 5:19:41 GMT
I am glad I have parents who almost 'enforce' (?) the fact I might like girls, but it is other family and fear of the people here that keeps me in the closet. Also I'm not ready just yet. :> If you're not ready yet, then don't go for it. You got your whole life to come out to people. Just make sure that your comfortable doing it when you do it |
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Post by rehabzombies on Jul 14, 2013 5:25:14 GMT
I am glad I have parents who almost 'enforce' (?) the fact I might like girls, but it is other family and fear of the people here that keeps me in the closet. Also I'm not ready just yet. :> If you're not ready yet, then don't go for it. You got your whole life to come out to people. Just make sure that your comfortable doing it when you do it :) <3 Mhm! ^^ Thanks. And yeah, that is true. ~ |
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Post by jwalton1299 on Jul 14, 2013 5:36:00 GMT
Well. I guess it's my turn then isn't it. So here's the thing, you know when you have this feeling about something that concerns you but you kind of hide the feeling away, just hoping it goes away too. Yeah, that's how I always felt. I always sorta knew I was gay but I kinda just thought maybe it was just part of growing up. Like in third grade, I knew I totally had feelings for this girl but it looked like she did too, but she ended up liking boys, so I kinda just figured I would "get over" being gay and start liking boys too. Now this year has been the year that I truly realized my feelings. At first I just said to myself that I'm bisexual because there was this one boy in my class that I thought I liked...I was only forcing myself to like someone that I truly had no feelings for... At this point in time, me being only 13 years old, I realize that I'm definitely gay. I have strong feelings for this girl (of course she's straight -_-) and I love that I know who I truly am. Although, at this point only a few friends know about me, I feel like I have a strong community that I can talk to about how I feel for this girl and just how I feel in general. I guess that is my story for now.
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. I am no doubt willing to give out advice if people are having trouble "coming out" or are not really sure where they stand. I'd share my coming out story, but I already posted a video about it on my tumblr that I think alot of people saw haha.
