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Post by tuxedopug on Jul 14, 2013 5:37:38 GMT
Well. I guess it's my turn then isn't it. So here's the thing, you know when you have this feeling about something that concerns you but you kind of hide the feeling away, just hoping it goes away too. Yeah, that's how I always felt. I always sorta knew I was gay but I kinda just thought maybe it was just part of growing up. Like in third grade, I knew I totally had feelings for this girl but it looked like she did too, but she ended up liking boys, so I kinda just figured I would "get over" being gay and start liking boys too. Now this year has been the year that I truly realized my feelings. At first I just said to myself that I'm bisexual because there was this one boy in my class that I thought I liked...I was only forcing myself to like someone that I truly had no feelings for... At this point in time, me being only 13 years old, I realize that I'm definitely gay. I have strong feelings for this girl (of course she's straight -_-) and I love that I know who I truly am. Although, at this point only a few friends know about me, I feel like I have a strong community that I can talk to about how I feel for this girl and just how I feel in general. I guess that is my story for now. It's amazing once you finally manage to pull your self out of that whole of confusion and you know pretty much who you are isnt it? I felt like I was in that hole for so long and I absolutely love being out with who i am, because I love the fact that Im gay  |
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Post by jwalton1299 on Jul 14, 2013 5:44:34 GMT
tuxedopug yess! It feels amazing not being confused. I hated being confused because I had to like question so many things. And love the fact that I'm gay too! (I know it's just my opinion but, girls are just so adorable: sorry any guys out there...your cool too, you're just not adorable to me. I hope no guys get offended lol) Also just a question; what do you feel about the fact that people think there needs to be like a "girl" and a "guy" in gay relationships?
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Post by jrry on Jul 14, 2013 5:45:21 GMT
Sexuality and gender identity is such a crazy thing. Coming out at 13? I'm 21 and I'm still confused about my sexuality. I would actually like to go more in depth with my problems but that's for another time. Maybe if an advice thread pops up. But it's good to see to much support.
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Post by rehabzombies on Jul 14, 2013 5:45:46 GMT
I've kissed 2 dudes, both times suck so much but I am unsure if it was because we both would have sucked at kissing and he was the least attractive person on this earth. And really horrible person at that. Anyway, I do remember almost forcing myself to have feelings for dudes to be able to answer stupid questions like, "Who is your top 3?" Or something I don't even know.
I just went with 3 dudes with the same name.
So I have yet to kiss a girl but I am hoping it will be at least Ok. xD
Actually now I think about it, I totally had a crush on a girl in my class back then and also in my class now again. And she totally got hotter. :u
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Post by tuxedopug on Jul 14, 2013 5:59:13 GMT
tuxedopug yess! It feels amazing not being confused. I hated being confused because I had to like question so many things. And love the fact that I'm gay too! (I know it's just my opinion but, girls are just so adorable: sorry any guys out there...your cool too, you're just not adorable to me. I hope no guys get offended lol) Also just a question; what do you feel about the fact that people think there needs to be like a "girl" and a "guy" in gay relationships? I completely agree with the fact that girls are just absolutely adorable in just every single way. But I think there really doesn't need to be a "guy" and a "girl" roles in the relationship. I feel like if the two people in the relationship just be themselves, and they truly like each other, then everything will work out the way they want it to |
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Post by jwalton1299 on Jul 14, 2013 6:04:03 GMT
tuxedopug yess! It feels amazing not being confused. I hated being confused because I had to like question so many things. And love the fact that I'm gay too! (I know it's just my opinion but, girls are just so adorable: sorry any guys out there...your cool too, you're just not adorable to me. I hope no guys get offended lol) Also just a question; what do you feel about the fact that people think there needs to be like a "girl" and a "guy" in gay relationships? I completely agree with the fact that girls are just absolutely adorable in just every single way. But I think there really doesn't need to be a "guy" and a "girl" roles in the relationship. I feel like if the two people in the relationship just be themselves, and they truly like each other, then everything will work out the way they want it to Yesss! I completely agree with that! You don't know how many times my friends have asked me about who would be the guy if you were in a relationship...like I kind of get why they ask but still I don't think it matters that much.. |
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Post by rehabzombies on Jul 14, 2013 6:13:25 GMT
I never got the whole, "Who is the *insert gender* in relationship"
I do get though how people would be confused. Not enough education on sexuality.
Welp, that is me for, well a few hours, o.x holy everything its 7am here.
Bye guys, ;u; thanks for the replies~ I shall be back tomorrow.
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Post by tuxedopug on Jul 14, 2013 6:16:46 GMT
I never got the whole, "Who is the *insert gender* in relationship" I do get though how people would be confused. Not enough education on sexuality. Welp, that is me for, well a few hours, o.x holy everything its 7am here. Bye guys, ;u; thanks for the replies~ I shall be back tomorrow. Same here hah, talk to yall tomorrow |
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Post by bertolli12 on Jul 14, 2013 7:13:41 GMT
I'm confused. I'm almost 20 years old, with very little experience with relationships (with guys/anyone) and because of that, I don't know if what I'm feeling now means that I'm a lesbian or bisexual. I have had feelings for guys before, but it's never really worked out with any of them. Now I'm wondering if it's because I'm gay. I guess I've had my doubts about being straight for a while now, but have managed to ignore those feelings or at least not think about it. Lately its come to the forefront of my mind and I can't stop questioning a lot of things about my life right and I don't know what to do. I've recently become part of the Hartosexual/Hannah Hart fandom and so I figured that I could ask some of you kind, smart Hartosexuals for some advice or something to help me through this confusing time.
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Post by pumpkinsparks on Jul 14, 2013 8:28:17 GMT
I'm confused. I'm almost 20 years old, with very little experience with relationships (with guys/anyone) and because of that, I don't know if what I'm feeling now means that I'm a lesbian or bisexual. I have had feelings for guys before, but it's never really worked out with any of them. Now I'm wondering if it's because I'm gay. I guess I've had my doubts about being straight for a while now, but have managed to ignore those feelings or at least not think about it. Lately its come to the forefront of my mind and I can't stop questioning a lot of things about my life right and I don't know what to do. I've recently become part of the Hartosexual/Hannah Hart fandom and so I figured that I could ask some of you kind, smart Hartosexuals for some advice or something to help me through this confusing time. Don't worry. I'm 25 and still a bit confused as well. You are never too old or too young to realize your sexuality. And when you figured it out and labeled yourself, so to speak, then it is ok to change that label later again. Sexuality isn't fixed in black, white, and this one shade of grey; it has all the colours. And sometimes it's not easy to figure out where you belong exactly. Just do, what feels the most comfortable. |
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Post by pumpkinsparks on Jul 14, 2013 9:19:38 GMT
It's kinda weird. I think I always kinda knew that I wasn't straight, but never really concerned myself with my own feelings and just did not care about other people's sexuality so much, that I never really realized it. I just always thought that I'm bi-curious and had some bisexual tendencies. Then a couple of months ago, I just had this moment of "wait a second!" and reevaluated my former thoughts and actions and it just clicked. OF COURSE I like girls. How can I not? They're georgous!
But now it's so weird. Sexuality just isn't a concern in my family. I grew up with the understanding that we are defined by our actions, not by who we like. My aunt lives with the same women for 30 years now, and as a kid I was always confused where the extra aunt came from, because we just never talked about it. It was normal. Well, it is normal. But it isn't what we are taught in kindergarten. Does that make sense?
And now I'm in this whole coming out thing, which is just a strange concept that I can't quite wrap my head around. Several of my friends know that I'm pan, but I don't even know which ones do. It just came up in some way and I clarified. But should I sit my parents down and tell them? I don't know, like "ok, we gotta talk, here's the deal, I like girls! Pass the potaoes please." That's just strange and weird and I don't know... I don't want to make a big deal out of it (because it isn't, and I just don't like being put on the spot like that), but I also don't want them to not care. And I just don't know how to tell them without it coming up naturally...
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Post by VickyLeigh on Jul 14, 2013 11:02:22 GMT
This is probably going to sound strange but I began to question my sexuality when I was 14/15 and believed I had a crush on my English teacher. She was young, straight out of uni and just seemed beautiful both inside and out. I started to actually enjoy English, and noticed that every time she smiled at me or complimented my work I'd get butterflies in my stomach, the feeling I'd get whenever I'd have a crush on someone, and it made me think..would a straight woman feel these sort of emotions towards another woman?
As time went on, I began developing more and more female and male crushes until I believed that I was in fact bisexual. Coming out to my parents was..much harder than I expected it'll be, and I ended up writing them a letter explaining it because I was too afraid to say it to them face-to-face. My Dad didn't seem particularly pleased with what I told him but he said that if that was who I was then he'd accept that just for me, which was comforting however my Mum on the other hand was (and still is) very reluctant to believe that I'm bi and claims that I'm only saying that because she thinks I'm "following the crowd" or "going through a phase". I also came out to 3 of my closest friends, who all gave me love and support and said that they were proud of me for realising who I was and coming out.
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Post by mcronson on Jul 14, 2013 13:38:00 GMT
I realized I was bisexual (it's just easier to call it that) as soon as I found out it was possible to be that way. Growing up pretty sheltered with a tight-knit group of friends and a fairly traditional Middle Eastern family, I was never exposed to anything queer-related until my first day in high school, when one of the girls I knew in elementary school showed up and said she was bi. I pretty much remember thinking "wait, you can DO that??" and identified then and there as bisexual (and realized in the process that the feelings I had for my best friend of the past two years were more than just friendly, whoops). I wasn't in the closet with regards to people at school, because I didn't care about their opinions, and I started dating my first girlfriend a year later. We were out as a couple and got minimal trouble from other people because I guess it wasn't a big deal. I came out to my mom and brother when I was 14, but I never felt the need to come out to the rest of my family, because I am quite positive they wouldn't accept me and quite frankly I'd rather have things comfortable and safe with them for right now. If I ever get into a serious relationship with a woman, I'll have to think on it a bit more, but that has yet to happen. I'll cross that bridge, etc., etc.
So I'm mostly out, but, you know, I haven't quite closed the closet door behind me, haha.
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Post by kaitlinmcb on Jul 14, 2013 14:41:57 GMT
I guess its time for me to add now.
I'm 18 and just recently ive started questioning my sexuality. I mean I used to always think of myself as straight, and that I would always be straight. I had always had crushes on guys, never girls, and thats just how I thought it was going to be. But acouple months ago (not gonna lie this might sound weird) but when I started watching Hannahs videos, and when I joined the Hartland, (or Hartosexuals whichever you prefer) I started questioning in my head. I mean I am definitely attracted to Hannah. Thats not even a question anymore. And because of that, In my head I started thinking about potential relationship partners as male or female, and that wow I wouldnt care either way, you know. So I finally looked up pansexuality, bisexuality, etc, to see if I could find a label. And I am extremely comfortable saying that I am Pansexual. I know its just a label, but the word feels good in my mouth, it just kinda feels right. Being pansexual for me, means that I am attracted to you because of you, not what you got going on in your pants you know? Your genitals really dont matter to me. And the difference between being bi and being pan for me is that Im not attracted to men and women, Im attracted to whoever because of who they are.
I havent really come out to anyone. (just a friend and strangers on the internet I guess haha) but not family or friends. I dont really feel the need to yet, I mean sexuality is fluid, and I know im constantly changing and growing as a person, but im comfortable where I am now. (Am I in the closet? I guess I am, and honestly never thought I would be here)
But on another note, the idea of coming out to my parents is a scary one. I know they would accept it if I told them I was gay, but I dont know how they would feel about being Pansexual. Like would they understand it? I dont know. All I know is im not yet ready explain all of that yet. And telling my friend with a mother who isnt exactly openly supporting of the LGBTQA community, well thats even scarier.
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Post by koo on Jul 14, 2013 15:34:04 GMT
So my story... Recently (since like may or so) I've been seriously questioning everything about myself, especially my sexuality. I would wake up every day not knowing who I was and I couldn't fall asleep until like 4 a.m. I remember one night I got out of bet at 1 a.m and looked myself in the eyes (in my mirror) and said "Who am I"... that was probably one of my darkest moments.
so fast forward a few months of hardcore thinking and questioning and consulting with my best friend. I found out that I am a lesbian pretty much the week before meeting Hannah. I didn't accept it at all however and pretended that it was just her that made me freak. (awkward crush). So I met Hannah, (best day of my life) and it was all fine and dandy. Then a week or two later it finally hit me. I couldn't run away from it any longer... I'm a lesbian.
I have only told my best friend and internet strangers so far, and I'm terrified to tell anyone else because I absolutely hate confrontation and judgement. I've gotten bullied enough without people knowing this about me... I can't imagine how bad it would be if they actually had something they could make fun of about me.
The thing is, I don't like lying and being alone in this closet. It has only been like a month and I'm already lonely. This sucks
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