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Post by kblovesit on Jul 14, 2013 20:51:39 GMT
I've been out and proud for years. As one of the older( I guess? Everybody else seems so young) Hartosexuals, I'm definitely here to throw out any advice or encouragement needed. Any time. Send me a message on here or on my Tumblr. kblovesit.tumblr.com |
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Post by pumpkinsparks on Jul 14, 2013 20:55:27 GMT
I've been out and proud for years. As one of the older( I guess? Everybody else seems so young) Hartosexuals, I'm definitely here to throw out any advice or encouragement needed. Any time. Send me a message on here or on my Tumblr. kblovesit.tumblr.com Your not the only one, who feels like one of the older ones. Trust me  |
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Post by brookprest on Jul 14, 2013 21:56:03 GMT
My coming out story is super awkward.
My sister had come out as Bisexual and in a relationship before i had the chance to come out as Pansexual.
It was funny because we never discussed the others sexuality before so it was a bit of a shock.
I decided to wait a few years before i decided that it would be safe enough to come out and not have it look like i was "copying my big sister" (little sisters out there im sure you know how that feels) and so when i sat down to tell my mom I just burst into tears before i said anything at all. I guess i was afraid that she would think i was just trying to be like my sister and that she wouldnt accept it.
Turns out she would love me even if i was attracted to a purple monster.
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Post by pumpkinsparks on Jul 14, 2013 22:00:12 GMT
My coming out story is super awkward. My sister had come out as Bisexual and in a relationship before i had the chance to come out as Pansexual. It was funny because we never discussed the others sexuality before so it was a bit of a shock. I decided to wait a few years before i decided that it would be safe enough to come out and not have it look like i was "copying my big sister" (little sisters out there im sure you know how that feels) and so when i sat down to tell my mom I just burst into tears before i said anything at all. I guess i was afraid that she would think i was just trying to be like my sister and that she wouldnt accept it. Turns out she would love me even if i was attracted to a purple monster. Your mother is a good mother! |
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Post by kblovesit on Jul 14, 2013 22:04:45 GMT
My coming out story is super awkward. My sister had come out as Bisexual and in a relationship before i had the chance to come out as Pansexual. It was funny because we never discussed the others sexuality before so it was a bit of a shock. I decided to wait a few years before i decided that it would be safe enough to come out and not have it look like i was "copying my big sister" (little sisters out there im sure you know how that feels) and so when i sat down to tell my mom I just burst into tears before i said anything at all. I guess i was afraid that she would think i was just trying to be like my sister and that she wouldnt accept it. Turns out she would love me even if i was attracted to a purple monster. As a little sister, I'm with you on all accounts. Also, your mom rocks. It's nice to hear one of the good coming out stories. |
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Post by rehabzombies on Jul 14, 2013 22:06:03 GMT
My coming out story is super awkward. My sister had come out as Bisexual and in a relationship before i had the chance to come out as Pansexual. It was funny because we never discussed the others sexuality before so it was a bit of a shock. I decided to wait a few years before i decided that it would be safe enough to come out and not have it look like i was "copying my big sister" (little sisters out there im sure you know how that feels) and so when i sat down to tell my mom I just burst into tears before i said anything at all. I guess i was afraid that she would think i was just trying to be like my sister and that she wouldnt accept it. Turns out she would love me even if i was attracted to a purple monster. You have an amazing mother. (: Also I personally would love to have a family member close to me to come out before me so I could follow if I saw it was safe or not, but I am the only non-straight in my immediate family, I think. I do have gay cousins, I think one of them is married. I remember my Nana having to warn my Grandda to not say anything about their relationship, so I don't want to come out while he is alive. Which sounds horrible and makes me kind of sound like I hate him but, I feel like it would hurt him if I did so I won't. :x |
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Post by brookprest on Jul 14, 2013 22:11:13 GMT
My coming out story is super awkward. My sister had come out as Bisexual and in a relationship before i had the chance to come out as Pansexual. It was funny because we never discussed the others sexuality before so it was a bit of a shock. I decided to wait a few years before i decided that it would be safe enough to come out and not have it look like i was "copying my big sister" (little sisters out there im sure you know how that feels) and so when i sat down to tell my mom I just burst into tears before i said anything at all. I guess i was afraid that she would think i was just trying to be like my sister and that she wouldnt accept it. Turns out she would love me even if i was attracted to a purple monster. You have an amazing mother. (: Also I personally would love to have a family member close to me to come out before me so I could follow if I saw it was safe or not, but I am the only non-straight in my immediate family, I think. I do have gay cousins, I think one of them is married. I remember my Nana having to warn my Grandda to not say anything about their relationship, so I don't want to come out while he is alive. Which sounds horrible and makes me kind of sound like I hate him but, I feel like it would hurt him if I did so I won't. :x That doesnt sound horrible. It sounds like you are just being protective of his feelings and yours! I also have a gay uncle, but that didnt change my grandparents reaction to both of us coming out. Just remember "Treat them with the respect you deserve" -Hannah Hart |
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Post by pumpkinsparks on Jul 14, 2013 22:13:57 GMT
My coming out story is super awkward. My sister had come out as Bisexual and in a relationship before i had the chance to come out as Pansexual. It was funny because we never discussed the others sexuality before so it was a bit of a shock. I decided to wait a few years before i decided that it would be safe enough to come out and not have it look like i was "copying my big sister" (little sisters out there im sure you know how that feels) and so when i sat down to tell my mom I just burst into tears before i said anything at all. I guess i was afraid that she would think i was just trying to be like my sister and that she wouldnt accept it. Turns out she would love me even if i was attracted to a purple monster. You have an amazing mother. (: Also I personally would love to have a family member close to me to come out before me so I could follow if I saw it was safe or not, but I am the only non-straight in my immediate family, I think. I do have gay cousins, I think one of them is married. I remember my Nana having to warn my Grandda to not say anything about their relationship, so I don't want to come out while he is alive. Which sounds horrible and makes me kind of sound like I hate him but, I feel like it would hurt him if I did so I won't. :x It totally makes sense. I mean, I grew up in a very open minded, liberal environment. My (favorite) aunt is bisexual and is in a relationship with the same women as long as my parents are married. So from that side of the family I know that my coming out wouldn't be a problem. But my grandma on the other side is super conservative, narrowminded and - well, let just say has some shadows of a very brown upbringing in her. So I dread telling her that I'm pan. And might avoid it for as long as possible. Not that I'm ashamed of it, or that I don't love her. It just is a discussion - a constant discussion that I just don't really want to have... |
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Post by rehabzombies on Jul 14, 2013 22:17:07 GMT
You have an amazing mother. (: Also I personally would love to have a family member close to me to come out before me so I could follow if I saw it was safe or not, but I am the only non-straight in my immediate family, I think. I do have gay cousins, I think one of them is married. I remember my Nana having to warn my Grandda to not say anything about their relationship, so I don't want to come out while he is alive. Which sounds horrible and makes me kind of sound like I hate him but, I feel like it would hurt him if I did so I won't. :x That doesnt sound horrible. It sounds like you are just being protective of his feelings and yours! I also have a gay uncle, but that didnt change my grandparents reaction to both of us coming out. Just remember "Treat them with the respect you deserve" -Hannah Hart True and, thanks. I will remember that ^^ |
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Post by Deleted on Jul 14, 2013 22:19:58 GMT
I realised I was attracted to females when I was about 11, then when I was 12 I had a full blown crush on the most pretty and funny (andstraight v.v) girl ever. I still have a crush on her, and I'm now 15. But yeah I only recently have been thinking, more about it, I am still on the edge and unsure if I am lesbian or bi/pansexual but I do prefer girls a lot more. Curse sexuality and how complicated you are! I'm in the same place, I know for sure that I'm queer, but I don't really know if I'm totally gay or bi or maybe pansexual. It's craziness. But it also makes it really hard to come out even if I wanted to because how am I supposed to tell people if I don't know what it is for sure?? :/ |
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Post by Deleted on Jul 14, 2013 22:21:41 GMT
So my story... Recently (since like may or so) I've been seriously questioning everything about myself, especially my sexuality. I would wake up every day not knowing who I was and I couldn't fall asleep until like 4 a.m. I remember one night I got out of bet at 1 a.m and looked myself in the eyes (in my mirror) and said "Who am I"... that was probably one of my darkest moments. so fast forward a few months of hardcore thinking and questioning and consulting with my best friend. I found out that I am a lesbian pretty much the week before meeting Hannah. I didn't accept it at all however and pretended that it was just her that made me freak. (awkward crush). So I met Hannah, (best day of my life) and it was all fine and dandy. Then a week or two later it finally hit me. I couldn't run away from it any longer... I'm a lesbian. I have only told my best friend and internet strangers so far, and I'm terrified to tell anyone else because I absolutely hate confrontation and judgement. I've gotten bullied enough without people knowing this about me... I can't imagine how bad it would be if they actually had something they could make fun of about me. The thing is, I don't like lying and being alone in this closet. It has only been like a month and I'm already lonely. This sucks I'm so sorry things are tough right now, but you have friends here in the hartosexual community even if we are just strangers on the internet  |
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Post by Deleted on Jul 14, 2013 22:23:20 GMT
I've been out and proud for years. As one of the older( I guess? Everybody else seems so young) Hartosexuals, I'm definitely here to throw out any advice or encouragement needed. Any time. Send me a message on here or on my Tumblr. kblovesit.tumblr.com Your not the only one, who feels like one of the older ones. Trust me I'm glad you guys are here, because I'm only 14 and just starting the coming out process |
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Post by pumpkinsparks on Jul 14, 2013 22:26:19 GMT
Your not the only one, who feels like one of the older ones. Trust me I'm glad you guys are here, because I'm only 14 and just starting the coming out process Sweety, I'm 25 and just start the coming out process. I actually envy you, that you realized your sexuality at your age, to be honest. But we are always happy to give advice and/or help in any way possible |
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Post by tuxedopug on Jul 14, 2013 22:34:26 GMT
Your not the only one, who feels like one of the older ones. Trust me I'm glad you guys are here, because I'm only 14 and just starting the coming out process We'll always be here to help <3 |
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Post by Deleted on Jul 14, 2013 22:41:56 GMT
I'm glad you guys are here, because I'm only 14 and just starting the coming out process We'll always be here to help <3 Thank you so much <3 I feel so lucky that I have this community man. Right now I have like one hand out of the closet but I'm really glad that the hartosexuals have my back |
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