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Post by rehabzombies on Jul 17, 2013 0:58:03 GMT
Hey does anyone here have experience with an lgbt group for young people? You know, like at a community centre etc.? I have yet to work up the nerve to go to the one near me, partly because I really don't know what to expect. I've certainly creeped its facebook a ton though. So I was wondering how you guys felt about them.? From what I have heard, the local one here is really good, they offer support, free STD/STI tests and all that. I am unsure about anywhere else. I haven't been to the one near me because it moved to a place right beside a busy street and I don't feel like I'd really need to go there because I feel comfortable where I am right now. But if you feel like you are comfortable going and that you would feel safe going, maybe you should go, at least once to try it out? |
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Post by belikethebluebird on Jul 17, 2013 1:11:47 GMT
Hey does anyone here have experience with an lgbt group for young people? You know, like at a community centre etc.? I have yet to work up the nerve to go to the one near me, partly because I really don't know what to expect. I've certainly creeped its facebook a ton though. So I was wondering how you guys felt about them.? From what I have heard, the local one here is really good, they offer support, free STD/STI tests and all that. I am unsure about anywhere else. I haven't been to the one near me because it moved to a place right beside a busy street and I don't feel like I'd really need to go there because I feel comfortable where I am right now. But if you feel like you are comfortable going and that you would feel safe going, maybe you should go, at least once to try it out? Yeah, I probably should just go. The point for me would be to meet people (IRL) who are going through the same stuff, I guess I'm just nervous to show up and be like, "Hey, so, we're all queer then? Cool. Let's play boardgames." I guess it's just a matter of when I sooner of later feel comfortable showing up. |
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Post by rehabzombies on Jul 17, 2013 1:20:47 GMT
From what I have heard, the local one here is really good, they offer support, free STD/STI tests and all that. I am unsure about anywhere else. I haven't been to the one near me because it moved to a place right beside a busy street and I don't feel like I'd really need to go there because I feel comfortable where I am right now. But if you feel like you are comfortable going and that you would feel safe going, maybe you should go, at least once to try it out? Yeah, I probably should just go. The point for me would be to meet people (IRL) who are going through the same stuff, I guess I'm just nervous to show up and be like, "Hey, so, we're all queer then? Cool. Let's play boardgames." I guess it's just a matter of when I sooner of later feel comfortable showing up. I personally kind of rely on my internet family in a way to support me with those things. Which is something all of us do, we are a tiny group of people who help each other nearly 24/7. Which I am really grateful for. I don't think I could go to a community place like that because I don't feel comfortable around people actually, I get really nervous and personally kind of hate having to go up to people and talk face to face. |
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Post by belikethebluebird on Jul 17, 2013 1:26:28 GMT
Yeah, I probably should just go. The point for me would be to meet people (IRL) who are going through the same stuff, I guess I'm just nervous to show up and be like, "Hey, so, we're all queer then? Cool. Let's play boardgames." I guess it's just a matter of when I sooner of later feel comfortable showing up. I personally kind of rely on my internet family in a way to support me with those things. Which is something all of us do, we are a tiny group of people who help each other nearly 24/7. Which I am really grateful for. I don't think I could go to a community place like that because I don't feel comfortable around people actually, I get really nervous and personally kind of hate having to go up to people and talk face to face. Yeah, this community is amazing, it's really caring. And I love that it's online, because some of us are always here, it's a place to go. That makes sense, face to face conversations are different. |
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Post by rainbowmutt on Jul 17, 2013 10:29:15 GMT
I realised I was attracted to females when I was about 11, then when I was 12 I had a full blown crush on the most pretty and funny (andstraight v.v) girl ever. I still have a crush on her, and I'm now 15. But yeah I only recently have been thinking, more about it, I am still on the edge and unsure if I am lesbian or bi/pansexual but I do prefer girls a lot more. Curse sexuality and how complicated you are! I'm in the same place, I know for sure that I'm queer, but I don't really know if I'm totally gay or bi or maybe pansexual. It's craziness. But it also makes it really hard to come out even if I wanted to because how am I supposed to tell people if I don't know what it is for sure?? :/ So much this. I KNOW that I like girls with a definite preference, and am totally cool with that - but I'm not completely sure if I'm full blown gay or what, and that's where it gets complicated coming out. It feels like I need to have a label so that people can understand. I personally came out to my mum and a few friends as bi to let them know, and I've just been working on figuring out myself since  I also went through a similar story; I was thirteen, met her, liked her more than anyone I had ever met in my life, didn't question anything - I refused to let my mind go there, she was my best friend for years and I was super protective, I stupidly hooked her up with on of my close guy friends because it just made her so ridiculously happy and I still wasn't questioning, then they got really serious and I was just feeling horrible for some reason, felt even worse for feeling bad because two of my best friends were happy, grew apart a bit, she started getting depressed, I got obsessive trying to find out why and trying to cheer her up, things got really mixed up and then she started hating me and shutting me out of her life, I couldn't figure out why it affected me so much and why I couldn't just let her go. Very low point here. Questioned things, super confused, didn't know any RL LGBT's or any online communities, too afraid to look for information, no close friends. One night in september last year, I stumbled across Jenna Anne's videos (youtube channel, Lesbian Answers) and felt really guilty/paranoid but watched a whole heap of videos and I could totally relate. Every night after I'd watch a few more until I was familiar with the idea of being gay. I admitted to myself that I'd been totally in love with this girl for years, and it was only after identifying that, that I could begin the process of letting go and healing. I'm so much happier now, I felt like the bad guy and blamed all of our breakdown on myself because I was missing part of the puzzle, but now it's in place, it's allowed me to step back and see the whole picture. That it wasn't all my fault, and now I could acknowledge everyone's mistakes, not just my own. Just want to let other people know not to hide from yourself, but to give yourself time to figure it out. That you don't need to jump under a label, but just quietly admit to yourself what you do like. Consider other people's stories and have a think And don't rush. Clique - It get's better!  Well that was longwinded... Didn't intend to write the second paragraph. Sorry! |
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Post by windswept on Jul 17, 2013 15:28:09 GMT
What up ya'll! I love all you Harto's <3 Reading this thread is def a faith-in-humanity booster!
I just wanna share some of my experiences cause ya'll are so sweet.
I'm 19, just had my first year of college- going for graphic/web design if anyone is curious bout that! But anydo, all throughout every grade up to 12th I had like zero interest in guys/girls. Too me all guys seem very.. bland I guess- they don't hold my attention the way a girl does if she laughs at my awful jokes. I got to college and wanted to find some fine college ladiez- and I did! Accidentally it turned out three of my friends were quiet homos in solid relationships (we joke that the homos has some secret magnetism round here). Then again my major is kind of a sterotype (but curse the hipster straight girls! /weeps o'er beauty in corner). Last year I had my first relationship, with a guy no less- but broke it off because there was zero attraction for me. Like he had a nice butt. But I'd rather kiss a rhinoceros than mack on him again. My roomate/bestfriend knows what I'm lookin for- and she's totally on my side. I'm excited for what surprises the future has- but I still want the spoilers too! My sister is also fully informed and keeps her eyes peeled for any cuties! I told my mom in passing that I might like a girl (as college is the place to try new things oho!) and she seemed quiet, but then I went and dated a guy so she prolly has whiplash.
Ya'll are perfect, and I'm sure you have cute butts! I'm here for all ya'll! Keep on keepin!
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Post by thoaparadoxrulesu on Jul 17, 2013 15:34:03 GMT
What up ya'll! I love all you Harto's <3 Reading this thread is def a faith-in-humanity booster! I just wanna share some of my experiences cause ya'll are so sweet. I'm 19, just had my first year of college- going for graphic/web design if anyone is curious bout that! But anydo, all throughout every grade up to 12th I had like zero interest in guys/girls. Too me all guys seem very.. bland I guess- they don't hold my attention the way a girl does if she laughs at my awful jokes. I got to college and wanted to find some fine college ladiez- and I did! Accidentally it turned out three of my friends were quiet homos in solid relationships (we joke that the homos has some secret magnetism round here). Then again my major is kind of a sterotype (but curse the hipster straight girls! /weeps o'er beauty in corner). Last year I had my first relationship, with a guy no less- but broke it off because there was zero attraction for me. Like he had a nice butt. But I'd rather kiss a rhinoceros than mack on him again. My roomate/bestfriend knows what I'm lookin for- and she's totally on my side. I'm excited for what surprises the future has- but I still want the spoilers too! My sister is also fully informed and keeps her eyes peeled for any cuties! I told my mom in passing that I might like a girl (as college is the place to try new things oho!) and she seemed quiet, but then I went and dated a guy so she prolly has whiplash. Ya'll are perfect, and I'm sure you have cute butts! I'm here for all ya'll! Keep on keepin! loved this!!!!  <3 |
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Post by rainbowmutt on Jul 17, 2013 16:20:37 GMT
What up ya'll! I love all you Harto's <3 Reading this thread is def a faith-in-humanity booster! I just wanna share some of my experiences cause ya'll are so sweet. I'm 19, just had my first year of college- going for graphic/web design if anyone is curious bout that! But anydo, all throughout every grade up to 12th I had like zero interest in guys/girls. Too me all guys seem very.. bland I guess- they don't hold my attention the way a girl does if she laughs at my awful jokes. I got to college and wanted to find some fine college ladiez- and I did! Accidentally it turned out three of my friends were quiet homos in solid relationships (we joke that the homos has some secret magnetism round here). Then again my major is kind of a sterotype (but curse the hipster straight girls! /weeps o'er beauty in corner). Last year I had my first relationship, with a guy no less- but broke it off because there was zero attraction for me. Like he had a nice butt. But I'd rather kiss a rhinoceros than mack on him again. My roomate/bestfriend knows what I'm lookin for- and she's totally on my side. I'm excited for what surprises the future has- but I still want the spoilers too! My sister is also fully informed and keeps her eyes peeled for any cuties! I told my mom in passing that I might like a girl (as college is the place to try new things oho!) and she seemed quiet, but then I went and dated a guy so she prolly has whiplash. Ya'll are perfect, and I'm sure you have cute butts! I'm here for all ya'll! Keep on keepin! I don't think I've ever seen someones personality and speech pattern shine through as much as yours just did I was interested in graphic design for a while, but only on the heavily artistic side... so I think I'll stick with the arts. Damn those hipster straight girls! |
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Post by pumpkinsparks on Jul 17, 2013 17:19:53 GMT
What up ya'll! I love all you Harto's <3 Reading this thread is def a faith-in-humanity booster! I just wanna share some of my experiences cause ya'll are so sweet. I'm 19, just had my first year of college- going for graphic/web design if anyone is curious bout that! But anydo, all throughout every grade up to 12th I had like zero interest in guys/girls. Too me all guys seem very.. bland I guess- they don't hold my attention the way a girl does if she laughs at my awful jokes. I got to college and wanted to find some fine college ladiez- and I did! Accidentally it turned out three of my friends were quiet homos in solid relationships (we joke that the homos has some secret magnetism round here). Then again my major is kind of a sterotype (but curse the hipster straight girls! /weeps o'er beauty in corner). Last year I had my first relationship, with a guy no less- but broke it off because there was zero attraction for me. Like he had a nice butt. But I'd rather kiss a rhinoceros than mack on him again. My roomate/bestfriend knows what I'm lookin for- and she's totally on my side. I'm excited for what surprises the future has- but I still want the spoilers too! My sister is also fully informed and keeps her eyes peeled for any cuties! I told my mom in passing that I might like a girl (as college is the place to try new things oho!) and she seemed quiet, but then I went and dated a guy so she prolly has whiplash. Ya'll are perfect, and I'm sure you have cute butts! I'm here for all ya'll! Keep on keepin! I smiled through your whole story, that was the best thing to come home to It's funny, I never wanted to do any work on the computer, and now I work as a graphic designer - well, partially, but still. And I love it! It's the only part of my job that I like, tbh... My friends are the same way. They're looking out for cuties for me, and keep asking when I will finally go to a gay club with them, so that I can meet some cute girls (they're all straight, btw). This whole hipster thing annoys me. I'm one of those, who were hipstering before it became a thing, and now everyone looks gay and drinks coffee all day long and listens to the good music and wears big sun glasses and what not... and now everyone thinks I'm one of them. BUT I'M NOT!!! I may be a hipster, but I'm pan - a panipster! ........................ sorry I needed to get that out, and you gave me a reason. whoops  |
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Post by rehabzombies on Jul 17, 2013 17:23:13 GMT
What up ya'll! I love all you Harto's <3 Reading this thread is def a faith-in-humanity booster! I just wanna share some of my experiences cause ya'll are so sweet. I'm 19, just had my first year of college- going for graphic/web design if anyone is curious bout that! But anydo, all throughout every grade up to 12th I had like zero interest in guys/girls. Too me all guys seem very.. bland I guess- they don't hold my attention the way a girl does if she laughs at my awful jokes. I got to college and wanted to find some fine college ladiez- and I did! Accidentally it turned out three of my friends were quiet homos in solid relationships (we joke that the homos has some secret magnetism round here). Then again my major is kind of a sterotype (but curse the hipster straight girls! /weeps o'er beauty in corner). Last year I had my first relationship, with a guy no less- but broke it off because there was zero attraction for me. Like he had a nice butt. But I'd rather kiss a rhinoceros than mack on him again. My roomate/bestfriend knows what I'm lookin for- and she's totally on my side. I'm excited for what surprises the future has- but I still want the spoilers too! My sister is also fully informed and keeps her eyes peeled for any cuties! I told my mom in passing that I might like a girl (as college is the place to try new things oho!) and she seemed quiet, but then I went and dated a guy so she prolly has whiplash. Ya'll are perfect, and I'm sure you have cute butts! I'm here for all ya'll! Keep on keepin! Sounds like things are going well. ^^ I hope things go great for you in college and relationships/sexuality~ |
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Post by windswept on Jul 17, 2013 20:38:28 GMT
rainbowmutt: My bros/brahs tell me that I pretty much talk in a weird code language- people hafta hang round me for a bit to fully understand my slang slingin' ways~ Them hipsters get my head so turned around! I swear! Hipsters, sundresses, and acoustic guitars- my greatest weaknesses! Like if a guy plays the guitar and wears a sundress- we married yo. When a girl does those three things she all- nah man we can't get married here. HIPSTERS. pumpkinsparks: Glad I could get ya to smile, all smiles are cute! FACT. I don't know where this whole graphic design thingy will take me, but I'm hopin where ever it is I can love it/date it/take it to movies/ long walk on the beach~ That's wicked that you get to play with some design tho! Ha I wanna take mine to a club, but are dancing is offensive to all cultures- except to eachother. FRIENDSHIPPP. My straight wing-wimmin is the best- she hassa pinpoint accurate gaydar- better than any homo I know! Sups helpful! WE CAN BE CAMOUFLAGED HOMOS TOGETHER. Sittin in a coffee shop hittin on the be-beanied girls with their fashionable flannel! rehabzombies: I am just really excited for life to happen! It's up n downs but it's all so fast- it's electric! I just need to find a girl that is cute, but not so cute I feel compelled to sprint away at Olympic speeds. My friends haven't let me live that down yet... Anydo! I wish the same for you darlin <3 That and lots of sunshine and peanut butter if you have an addiction to both like I do!
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Post by pyrowolf2point0 on Jul 17, 2013 20:56:45 GMT
Hey y'all, I'm gonna go ahead and jump into the conversation. I'm bisexual and I came out when I was 18. What really helped me become comfortable with myself was going to the pride alliance on my campus and seeing others who were in all different stages of coming out (some comfortable and some as terrified as me). I would encourage you guys to become apart of a group like that whether you have one available or if you have the courage to start one yourself. Talking to other lgbt people and hearing their stories is always a good way to get yourself thinking about who you are and if you're ready to come out. Although if you're on this forum I think you're already doing a getting a good start with that. |
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Post by pumpkinsparks on Jul 17, 2013 20:56:48 GMT
windswept: Sweety, that's a date. Whenever we for some reason happen to be in the same city/area/whatever we're gonna go sit ourselves in a café, drink some coffee and get us some ladies - or at least stare at them and swoon My gaydar is embarrassingly off. I never know who's gay and who isn't. Well, with guys it's a bit easy-er. But with the whole metrosexuality going on? You never know! I think your friend needs to show me some tricks on how so turn that gaydar on. Or install one in my brain... Mmmh, now I kinda wanna have a sign or a shirt that says something like "CAUTION!!! Camouflaged Homo!"
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Post by kolo on Jul 17, 2013 21:12:53 GMT
Another homo here. I was in denial for many years and even dated a few guys, although it never lasted long as I always knew something wasn't right so I always broke it off pretty quickly. Never been in a relationship with a lady, I'm a quiet person and tend to keep myself to myself, I'm also a PhD student so what little social life I do have is currently nonexistent! So yeah, I don't really meet new people very often. I'm not "out" and I assume people who know me think I'm straight due to my past relationships, although by the way I look/dress I think strangers assume I'm a huge homo Part of me doesn't want to come out because I think it's not something I should have to do, I'd like to think that if I do meet someone I could just say "this is who I'm dating, it's no big deal". The other part of me thinks I'm just a coward who's afraid of being judged, like I'm afraid of disappointing people or them thinking I'm "wrong". I think the people I would most like to come out to are my friends. I don't feel the need to come out to my family because I personally would feel a bit weird discussing my sexuality with my parents and I know they wouldn't be bothered anyway. But with my friends, I always feel like I'm having to pretend to be something I'm not when they're all discussing guys and relationships and stuff. The thing is they're all straight and the way they react to other gay people leads me to think they might judge me and not want to hang out anymore. The simple answer would be to get new friends if they can't take me for who I am, but I've known them for years and being the introvert I am I would be socially isolating myself by cutting them out of my life. Sorry for rambling, I hope that made sense! |
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Post by windswept on Jul 17, 2013 21:13:22 GMT
pumpkinsparks Oho I got that staring down to a science~*~*~ It's the whole talkin like a normal human that gets me. Hot people are like... agressively hot. My wing-lady gets hit on alllll the time by ladies (and me, because it's not bff-ship unless erryone thinks you date) but my gaydar brings me ladies that have already gotten hitched! It's wack! Or one bi-curious girl who gets a bf while I'm too paralyzed by her cute to talk to her- I'm clearlyyy a natural Barney Stinson ha! I even hit my campus's gltbqa club- and it was full of cute straight girls. THEY HAUNT ME. I would buy that as a shirt!
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